Confused? An arranged marriage or A love marriage?

By- Anuja Pandey

Marriage is a very important part of your life and is said to be social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, and I guess I am no other but the criteria for choosing the partner is different for every person. In love marriages, individuals choose their partners on their own, while in case of arrange marriages individual’s partners are chosen by their family. There is a continuous debate on what is best way to choose the partner. Let’s try doing some research on our own and see. Below are points about both and I guess when you start finding you will find these important.

Love Marriage:

1. Individual know each other from quite some time and decide to spend life together.

2. Couple is responsible for their choice and any problem in future, it’s the couple who are responsible and nobody else.

3. Couple knows about the likes and dislikes of each other.

4. Love is the only thing they have in mind, which make them eradicate the social evils like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the sense of responsibility of making these kinds of major decisions on their own.

5. The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arranged Marriage:

1. This is not a contract between two individuals but the families are involved from the very beginning.

2. Families know each other very well and try to know each other well enough before finalizing everything and so are they comfortable with each other.

3. Since more people are involved conflicts are slowly involved and people are involved in it.

4. Couple are guided a lot by their parents’ life.

5. It takes time to get to know each other properly and that comfort level is reached slowly.

Conclusion:

Well the way we tried putting up the points, it make up to a proper debate sense on love and arrange marriage. But no matter what you decide with ways it’s about life and their merits and demerits in your life. Even though families are involved in every marriage it’s the couple who are playing the role and has to be true to each other. Listen to what you want and listen to your part. Have a relationship where you can talk openly and frankly, reach that comfort zone in life and relationship and love your partner. Because like life no one can certify a perfect marriage and again like life marriage is full of uncertainty.