Can I Be In Love With Someone Being In A Relationship?

By- Shreya Sharma

Ever been in a situation where you care for two guys at the same time and you wonder what is so wrong with you? It may seem awkward to say yes to this situation but we all are guilty to be in this situation once in our life. You can still work out on your feelings and take action. You may feel your life to be completely ruined but it does not mean that and you can work it out. Here are ways you can deal with this situation if you are in relationship with someone but in love with someone else.

1. Think about the break up

Close your eyes and think about your breakup, do you feel devastated and miserable? Or do you feel relieved and happy? If you feel happy and relieved with the thought of break up, you need to call it a quit but if you feel miserable and devastated and you start crying over the thought of leaving him, then you are in relationship with a right person and your crush is just one obstacle in your relationship.

2. Do not cheat

Do not cheat because you know that cheating is the worst thing you can ever do in your relationship. It will neither make your partner feel good nor will you feel good doing this. It is just going to confuse you even more. You do not need your partner to blame you or call you a cheater.

3. Work on your feelings

You might be in love with someone else but that does not mean that you guys are destined to be together. If you are in love outside your relationship, it may mean that you have fallen out of love with your boyfriend. Understand this and save yourself time and heartbreak by breaking things as soon as possible. Break up with your partner first and then look for new relationship.

4. Think about staying with your partner

You are in a relationship but in love with someone else; still consider staying with the person you are with.  Understand why you are in love with someone else, is it because the things between you and your man have become boring? Think about the ways you can make your relationship work and make it more exciting because there was sure something between you two.

5. Be realistic

Think about being with the person you recently have a crush on, think if he is single, and think if you could ever be in a relationship. It could be just one passing phase. It could be that he is your BFF and that is why you feel emotionally connected with him. If you think he can be a great boyfriend and wants to be with you then that could be the best thing for you.

6. Do not be guilty conscious

This situation can happen with anyone, you need not to hate yourself or hide yourself under covers. You cannot help who you are attracted to or how your feelings and hormones work. You need not feel guilty about liking someone else.

7. Talk with your boyfriend about this

Communication is the key to make the relationship survive, so it might sound crazy but it is better you talk with your boyfriend about this. Talk with your partner honestly about it and tell him what is going on and how you feel things are not working between you and that you have romantic feelings for someone else. He might either feel miserable or will be happy that you addressed it. He might even wish to make things work again.

8. Be prepared

Be prepared that you might not end up with either of guys. Do not feel depressed if you end up being single once again. If you do not end up with either of them, then you were not meant to be with either of them. Be happy that the confusing time is over and you can live your life free.