Love Or Infatuation? 7 Ways To Tell The Difference Between It!

By- Shreya Sharma

You met a guy, you talked, you flirted and now it is been quite some time that you both know one another. You are confused as to what you feel for him, is love or just mere infatuation? Your heart flutters and it makes you smile. You cannot stop thinking about him and this makes you feel that you love this new guy in your life. It is really hard to tell the difference between love and infatuation and most of us fall into this trap. Infatuation is short lived passion for someone whereas love is intense feeling of deep affection. Here are 7 ways to tell the difference between Love and Infatuation.

1. INFATUATION happens quickly whereas LOVE is a slow process

Infatuation is like love at first sight; you may feel attracted towards a person the moment you look at them without even knowing anything about them. It is fast and overwhelming.

Love comes much later. You may fall in love with the person you feel infatuated towards. It takes time to know the person and his personality and thus it takes a lot of time to develop that feeling of love for them.

2. INFATUATION is a superficial affection whereas LOVE is a deeper connection with someone

Infatuation comes quickly even when you have never talked with that person. These are only surface level feelings that you initially have. These feelings are purely based on what the person looks like.

Love is when you know the person inside out and cares for them for not only his looks. It is a personal level of connection rather than sexual level of connection.

3. INFATUATION is about anxiety whereas LOVE is about comfort

Infatuation is associated with anxiety like having butterflies in stomach and heart-thumping when you see your crush. You feel excited when you are about to see the person you are interested in.

Love is calming and makes you feel complete. You feel the excitement in love as well but not that level of excitement as of in infatuation. It makes you feel peaceful and complete.

4. INFATUATION makes you act differently whereas LOVE allows you to be your true authentic self

Infatuation makes you feel anxiety and excitement which makes you act weird. You would be doing or saying things that you might not do or say normally. You might have heard your friends say that you are acting completely insane.

Love allows you to be yourself. When you are in love, you do not feel the need to be anybody else. You can be the way you are. You know you do not have to fake anything because they love you for who you are.

5. INFATUATION makes you want to satisfy the other person whereas LOVE makes you want to make other person happy

Infatuation almost makes it like you HAVE to please your crush. You may not be yourself anymore and you may even shut your friends and family to be with this person.

Love makes you think more about your partner’s happiness than yours. You want them to be happy. Your presence in his life makes him happy. All they need is you and your kindness towards them.

6. INFATUATION means “you” and “them” whereas LOVE means “us”

Infatuation causes you to separate the two of you and you put all the emphasis on them only.

Love makes you feel like a unit. There is no separation and you two are equals and together. You use the terms “us” and “we”

7. INFATUATION is short lived whereas LOVE is everlasting

Infatuation makes you look in a different direction for some time, then eventually passes by you and then you realize that you wasted your time on something less important. You will quickly get over them.

Love does not drift away over time. Yes, there are chances that people fall out of love but the feelings remain deep inside you for a long time. You’ll always remember your feelings for that person, and they’ll always be within you. It doesn’t just pass by.