15 Signs You Are Caught In Abusive Relationship!

By- Shreya Sharma

No one willingly gets into one abusive relationship; it is just the turn of the table that turns things ugly. And once you are stuck in it, it is difficult to get out of it and even if you have, the tragedy still haunts you. You just need to be cautious enough to detect the early signs of the abusive relationship and get out of it as early as possible. A little knowledge can lead you to a happy, safe and healthy life. Here are 15 signs that show you are caught in an abusive relationship.

1. He is constantly jealous

He is excessively possessive about you and calls you or visits you randomly and unexpectedly. And these surprises are not sweet.

2. He pushes you for quick involvement

His actions and words are so strong that you feel pressurized to get into an exclusive relationship almost immediately.

3. His expectations are unrealistic

He expects that you should meet his every need and you should be perfect in everything.

4. He tries to control you

He asks you questions about whom you were talking with, where you were. He keeps all the money and asks you for receipts and where you spend. He insists you to take permission from him to go anywhere or do anything.

5. He is hypersensitive

He gets offended very easily and feels insulted. He often rants about how life is doing injustice to him.

6. He makes you responsible for his feelings

He would say “you make me angry” instead of “I am angry” and shows it is all because of you, had it not been you, he would not get so pissed off.

7. He blames others for his mistakes

If anything goes wrong, it is just someone else’s fault and not his, each and every time. It could be his parents, his boss or you who are to be blamed.

8. You feel isolated

He has his ways to cut you off your family and friends. He deprives you of phone and car and tries to prevent you from getting a job.

9. He threatens violence

He makes statements like ‘I will break your legs” and then dismisses it, saying, “I do not mean it”

10. He is cruel to animals and children

He kills or punishes or ill-treats animals. He also teases children to an extent that makes them cry.

11. He has sudden mood swings

You have noticed him switching from loving to aggressive in a matter of seconds, leaving you wondering what really happened.

12. He is rigid about gender roles

You are expected to obey and serve him and stay at home.

13. He uses verbal abuse

He constantly degrades you by cursing you, calling you names, criticizing you and cruel things. He will bring up your past every now and then to humiliate you.

14. He has a past of battering

He admits to hitting women in the past but states that they or the situation brought it on.

15. He uses playful force for sex

He finds the idea of rape exciting, he enjoys throwing you down or doing things against your will. He manipulates you to engage in unwanted sex.