Have A Fight With Partner? 13 Things You Should Never Say To Him!
By- Shreya Sharma
When we are in the fight, we hardly have a control over what we say. And we usually say things, which we regret later. We say things that escalate the fire and heat and sometimes we speak out the things that we were holding within us for long. Later if you plan to make-up, you may feel guilt for going off limit. Do not let your anger have the best of you. Here are 13 things you should never say to him while fighting.
- Anything about weight or appearance
Calling your man bald ass during fight, when he is sensitive about losing hair is just the low blow. He may be bad ass but you decided to be with him. Plus, you will not like if he calls you ugly or fat, especially if you are conscious about your looks.
- Rude things about family
When you are with a man, you have to accept his family. May be his father is addicted to alcohol or his mother is clingy but you have to accept them that way only. They have nothing to do with the argument and should not be dragged in.
- Generalizing things
It is never a good idea. Accusing him of doing same thing again and again is never great. If he is always doing a certain thing you dislike, then why are you with him?
- Rude things about his friends
If he decides to be out with his friends and does not make any call to you then, it is his wish and nothing to do with his friends, do not drag them in the fight. The fight is between you two, keep this in mind.
- Bring last time
If you were still stuck with the last fight you had, you had not been together to fight now. Bringing issues from last fight will only worsen up the situation, let it go and stick to the current situation.
- “You are a loser”
Even if you are saying it in anger, there would be some truth to it if you are saying it at all. Instead of calling him a loser, it is better you say if his lazy, jobless attitude bothers you.
- Asking him to leave
If you actually do not want him to leave, then do not even say it in anger. If you say that, chances are he will take your threats seriously and may not come back. He may not understand that it is just that you are pissed that made you say things like this.
- Anything that is not related to that fight
Take one issue at a time. If you are talking about him still being in contact with ex, then do not bring up the issue of his snoring habit.
- Anything that you have already resolved
If you have already fought about anything and resolved that, then why to fight about that again? It just means that you were lying being over with that.
- “I hate you”
May be at that moment you hate him for what he has done, but if you still love him, it is better you try not to say this. Guys too have feelings and it may be the thing he will never like to hear.
- Comparison to another person or couple
Your friend’s relationship has nothing to do with your relationship. Instead of comparing your man with someone else or telling him how your friend’s boyfriend will avoid doing things for her, talk about what all you should do to deal with the situation.
- “You never” kind of generalization
It sounds accusatory. If he is never giving you what you need in relationship, it is better you move on.
- “I do not love you anymore”
If you really do not love him, then it is fine. But if this is just your anger then understand the consequences. Just know that it’s probably the last fight you’re ever going to have.
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