11 Things He Does Unknowingly Are NOT Good!

By- Shreya Sharma

You need not to make a big deal over every little issue that upsets you. Speak up about the things that really matters to you. There are some innocent things that bae does that are actually a big deal, and you blow off even when you should not blow them off. Trust your gut because sometimes it is important to make a big deal about something small. We all wish to be the ‘cool’ girlfriend who never gets hurt, is total chill and does not make issue about small things. Cool girlfriends do not exist, because to make your relationship work, you have to be vulnerable and real with your man. Here are 11 things he does unknowingly that are not good.

1. They tease you and then say they are joking

Light joking and teasing is no big issue in a relationship. But if he crosses the line, it means something is wrong. He makes fun at your expense, about things that you are insecure about, and when they see you are upset, then they say they are just joking. If his jokes are hurting your feelings, then it might be better you have a conversation.

2. They want to hang out always

If your bae is obsessed with you, it is not one great thing. To be in a good relationship, you allow each other to have a life of your own.  If your man wants your all time and he is demanding, then it could be that he is just suffocating you of your freedom. This can turn into a negative thing.

3. What is yours is their

He eats your food without asking, touches you at random times or leaves his stuff over your place. When it comes to your belongings, they have no boundaries. They assume you are together and there is no need to ask for permission. He feels you can share anything and there is no personal space issue. You may feel he is comfortable with you, but it shows that he disrespects you and your personal space.

4. You have no appearance on his social media

Not everyone is comfortable sharing their feelings and relationship on social media; still anyhow they manage to make their partner’s presence felt on social media. If they are not, it may mean that they are still luring for attention. If he gets weird when you tag him in your picture together, this is actually fight worthy.

5. They do not make call when they say they will

This is lame if they say there are bad with phone and that is why they did not called you back even when they said they will. This shows you have communication issues. If they cannot prioritize communication with you, then things are in a big mess.

6. They make all the decisions

If your man is the one who is deciding for you and control what you do and where you go, then he does not want a girlfriend, he wants someone who follows her instructions. Having opinion is sexy and hot, but if going their way is a necessity then you should consider your relationship again. If it is not a two-way relationship, then he is not the right person for you.

7. You fight about all little things

You put bigger issues on backseat because you fight over small issues. And you know constant fights are not taking your relationship anywhere. These little fights can be a sign that something bigger is going on.

8. They cannot take decisions on their own

They take forever to make a little decision. They put every decision on you be it about where you go on date or what movie you should watch together. They do not have an opinion of their own. You might not mind making choices, but if they cannot make decision about small things, how will they decide about bigger issues?

9. They do not do labels

If your man thinks labels are not his kind of thing, then it just shows that he is immature and there is nothing wrong with you. They feel it takes them off the pressure and heart break. They do not want to take the risks involved in a relationship.

10. They look at your phone all time

They may say that you can look at his phone whenever you want or that you should not have anything to hide from him. They hover over your phone or read your texts without asking. This shows that there is some trust issue that you need to resolve. This lack of privacy and annoyingness can lead you both to a huge issue if not sorted now.

11. They check other girls out

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you no longer find other people attractive. But, ogling other people straight up in front of you in a big way is rude. It’s inconsiderate of your feelings, makes you look bad, and can lead the other person on. Even if it’s not in front of you, if the person you’re with full on puts more effort into flirting with other people than with you, that’s still not good.