14 Signs Your Bestie Isn’t Your Bestie Anymore!

By- Shreya Sharma

As we grow, we lose friends and eve those we thought would never leave our side. It is painful to know that our best friend is no more our best friend but then as we grow, we get used to it. We understand who our true friends are and who the toxic ones are. We all have a friend who has been with us through everything, through death in family, breakup, graduation and every major milestone of life. Then life happens and we get busy with job, family, and things and then calls get fewer and you stop updating one another. Before you call it a quit, try to fight so that you can revive your friendship. And if everything fails, it is time to break up with your BFF. Here are 14 signs your besties is not your bestie anymore.

1. You do not chat anymore

If you wish to keep in touch, being physically together is not always necessary. There are various forms of communications, text, calls, emails, Skype or any way you feel easy. If you do not chat anymore, it is rather because you so not want to.

2. You do not meet up often

To keep your friendship alive, you need to put in your efforts, care, and love. If you are not meeting as often as you should, you are drifting apart. Sure, you both are busy in your life, but if you cannot make time for each other, then that is a warning sign for you.

3. No more random calls

A simple phone call is enough to catch with your best friend. It can be a quick hello or a long session. Keep the lines of communication open to sustain your friendship.

4. Facebook knows more about them than you

If now you get to know about your best friends’ major life events through Facebook or other friends, then you there is so trouble between you two.

5. They share your secret with others

Best friends are the ones who can keep our secrets safe with them, but if your friend has started sharing your secrets with others, then they are not your best friend anymore. Same goes for you as well.

6. You feel competition between you two

A little friendly competition gives you a push to be better and there is nothing wrong with that. But if you always try to prove yourself to be better than your best friend, then that is the problem.

7. You feel jealous

Friends are happy for one another. If your BFF’s achievements make you jealous, you can take it as a sign that your friendship is hitting a rough patch. Feeling jealous is normal and there is nothing wrong with wanting more than what you have. If you dislike your BFF for their success, then you are no longer best buddies.

8. You secretly want them to fail

If you enjoy your friend’s failure then you can take it as a red flag. BFFs are supposed to be one another’s cheerleaders no matter whatever the situation is. If you wish them best of luck for an interview and pray for them to fail, then your friendship is falling apart.

9. They go out without you

If you and your best friend live in the same area and they plan a night out without you, then it is one problem. They might try to cover up for this, but the truth is, once you start yearning fun without one another then you know that you have a problem.

10. You both have new friends

Having friends outside your circle is never wrong; in fact, it should be encouraged. You might be having drinking buddies, college buddies and a long list of groups, but your best friend should always be your priority. If you both have started spending more time with others and less time with one another, it means you are drifting away.

11. You do not resolve conflicts

Just like other relationships, solving conflicts and dramas as soon as possible is really important. If you leave things unsaid and do not work on fixing things, then it will eventually ruin every aspect of your relationship.

12. Alone time is awkward

You are comfortable when it is one big group, but when you two are left alone, you find that you do not have much to talk about or share. You realize that you have fewer things to say and more time to think about this awkward silence.

13. You procrastinate keeping in touch

When you receive good news, the first person you share that news with is your BFF. If you procrastinate telling them what is going on in your life and tells others before them, then it shows that you are drifting away.

14. You do not bother with special occasions

When you are BFF, you start planning a surprise birthday party for them well in advance or are in the first few people to wish them, but if you forget their birthday again and again, then you need to re-evaluate your friendship.