8 Steps To Up Your Confidence Game In The Bedroom!

By- Shreya Sharma

Confidence in bed has a lot to do with your mind rather than your outward appearance. Society has created an unrealistic ideal of how our body should look like. And to achieve that, we spend a lot of time, money and energy and mostly we fail to attain that. Poor confidence impacts your enjoyment in the bedroom. Do not let your inhibitions make you feel less confident and get in the way of your living. Here are 8 steps to up your confidence game in the bedroom.

1. Exercise and be healthy

Not everyone has that dream bikini body. You need not spend hours exercising and toning your body into that ideal bikini body. But being healthy is enough to make you feel good about your body. Being unhealthy and being low on energy makes you feel bad about your body. Make healthy choices in your everyday life to feel energetic. Plus, exercise can release endorphins that boost happiness and relieve stress.

2. People are always happy to see other people naked

If someone has managed to get you naked, they will be happy at that moment and your scars or fat will not bother them. There are other things on that person’s mind before they start considering your flaws and they do not wish to ruin the moment. Even you will not be thinking about the size of their stomach or arm.

3. Enjoyment should be your priority

Sex is not a performance where you have to act in a certain manner. Live your life and enjoy sex to feel good. Do not let your insecurities hamper your enjoyment. Letting go of inhibitions and having fun will make you and your partner feel happy.

4. Take a break

Do not force yourself to do things that make you feel uncomfortable. Do not have sex just for the sake of having it as it will have a negative impact on the way you feel about your body. Take time to release pressure off yourself. Rebuild your self-confidence without the pressure of sex. Come back to sex when the time is right and you feel good about your body.

5. Talk about your insecurities

Honestly, tell your partner how you feel about your body. Your insecurity about your body can make you feel uncomfortable in the bedroom. Your partner will be happy to help you and will feel relieved that you are not uncomfortable because of his actions. Do not be afraid to suggest that you have a t-shirt on or lights being turned off. Talking about the problem will relieve some pressure and make you feel confident.

6. Forget about the ‘other woman’

The other woman might be the one you would love to look like or the women you think your partner would prefer. You will constantly compare yourself with her which will make you feel inadequate. You need to remember that there can be no one like you and you cannot be anyone else. The other woman is just your perception which will keep on changing and you will never feel satisfied with yourself this way. Be yourself and do not let the other woman haunt you.

7. Choose clothes that make you feel great

We all are different shapes and sizes and have interest, so no guide can tell you what will make you look sexy. Do not wear anything that you dislike and makes you feel uncomfortable. You need not wear skimpy clothes or stringy underpants to look sexy. Do not wear anything that makes you feel uncomfortable as it can have the negative impact on your self-esteem, lowering your confidence. Only wear the clothes and underwear that makes you feel sexy.

8. Pick the right partner

Make sure your partner is right for you. If your guy is the reason your feel less confident about your body and is not supportive of your choices, then it is better to get rid of them.  You need not be with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself. if your man does not appreciate you for who you are, then you are only wasting your time, damaging your happiness and ruining your self-esteem.