10 Struggles You Will Understand If You’re A Hopeless Romantic!

By- Shreya Sharma

Do you cry when you see romantic movies? Do you cry when you attend a wedding? Does your heart flutter seeing people in love? If your answer is yes, then you are a hopelessly romantic person. But in reality, you do not always have a fairy, Yash Chopra kind of story in your life. You face disappointment, heartbreaks and cry the tears of pain. Hopeless romantics face a lot of problems in this heartless hook-up culture world. Here are 10 struggles you will understand if you are a hopeless romantic.

1. You constantly date the wrong person

For hopeless romantics, finding love is the goal of your life and meeting jerks makes things hard for you. You constantly date wrong people and deal with disappointment which is hard for you to bear. But you can learn from it as to what works and what does not.

2. Love is less of reality and more of ideal

When you fall in the relationship, your idea of love dies altogether. You might try to romanticize the situation of your relationship, but you have to face the hard harsh truths of your relationship as well. Hopeless romantics are trapped in the abusive or directionless relationship because they stick to their ideals.

3. The idea of dating is scary

It is hard for you to play dating games. The modern dating game has changed so much that it confuses you. People prefer no-strings-attached relationship than looking for a serious commitment which is a conflict of hopeless romantic’s ideals. The modern dating situation is too hard for hopeless romantics.

4. Love is not what movies show

Hopeless romantics have an ideal dream like the situation that they associate with love. We want our life to be like that of romantic movies we watch; like Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol in Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge. Love is shown to be great in movies, but in real it is not, it is not easy to forgive someone who cheated on you. You just have to deal with it.

5. You have so much love to give that it scares you

You are the more affectionate one in the relationship and you never run out of romantic gestures. You are ready to do anything for the love of your life. You give yourself so much in the relationship that you lose yourself completely.

6. You are attracted towards emotionally unavailable people

Your attraction towards emotionally unavailable people is dangerous which even leaves you frustrated and vulnerable at times. You find yourself fighting a battle to win the attention of emotionally unavailable person which is of no benefit.

7. You have a period of being alone

You fight to sustain your relationship and often experience a period of loneliness before deciding to date someone again. It is your dating cycle.  

8. You often develop feelings for almost anyone

You are so in love with the concept of love that you develop feelings for anyone you get close with. And these feelings are unrequited most of the times.

9. You do not give up on love

The concept and the idea of finding genuine and lasting love are what make you stand and try again. Maybe a relationship you held dear failed and scarred you, that does not mean you should give up on love altogether. You consider love to be far too precious of a thing to give up on.

10. You are considered to be picky

People consider you to be picky and someone with high standards because of your ideals. It is hard for you to choose date because you already have ideals established in your head which is hard to meet.